Sunday, April 21, 2013

Slow and Steady Wins the Race . . .

As much as we would like to do more as far as networking is concerned, we honestly don't know what else is left for us to do at this point other than pray. We have been busy handing out our Pass Along Cards and trying to find other ways to network.  We just created an adoption profile video and uploaded it to YouTube yesterday.  We have had SO many of our friends and family share the link to the video.  We are truly humbled by their outpouring of love and support and we feel blessed beyond words!!  I also found another adoptive parent profile site this evening so I will be creating a profile for that site as well.  The more exposure we have, the better our chances.

We did begin researching agencies on the advice of our social worker.  I contacted several agencies a few weeks ago and requested information packets.  One of the information packets instantly brought me to tears.  That particular agency bases their fees on the race of the child.  The most disturbing part was that after I did a bit more research, and asked other members of the adoption forum that I belong to, I discovered that it is standard practice.  Needless to say, if we end up going the agency route, we WILL NOT be choosing an agency that bases their fees on race!  We are still trying to find an agency that we feel comfortable with which has proved quite elusive, so for now we are going to continue to pursue the independent route.  

I know it is just a matter of time before our future son or daughter finds us.  It occurred to me, however, while looking over our blog that we haven't indicated what our preferences are concerning that child. Frankly, we don't have many. We are open to gender and race and are willing to consider prenatal drug exposure on a case by case basis.  We are also willing to negotiate a level of openess that fits the needs of both the expectant parents and our family.  Our future child will always know that he/she was adopted and that his/her birth parents loved him/her very much.  We want to do what is best for our future child and ensure that he/she grows up knowing his/her roots.  

We are trying to be patient while waiting for our future miracle to find us, but that is SO MUCH easier said than done!! I just have to keep reminding myself that slow and steady wins the race.

P.S. Here is our adoption profile video: